Enneagram 2 - The Helper

This is the second in a series of nine features that provides insight into each of the Enneagram types. Each feature provides an overview of the type, including how each type responds to stress and evolves in growth. It also includes insight for leaders to customize their approach of support, insight for people working with them to be more intentional partners, and reminders for those that identify with the specific type. This feature is all about Enneagram 2!

What are the characteristics of an Enneagram 2?

• Twos are warm, friendly, sincere, sentimental, generous people

• they can slip into self-sacrificing, flattering, and people-pleasing positions where they don’t advocate for their own interest

• Twos basic need is to be loved, and of being worthy of that love

• they want to be needed and want to be appreciated for all they put into their relationships

How do Enneagram 2s respond to stress and growth?

When Twos are stressed, they can take on the unhealthy qualities of an Eight

• this can make them lash out from bottled up frustrations of not feeling appreciated or valued

When Twos are healthy, they can take on the healthy qualities of a Four

• this can help them become more emotionally aware and better advocate their own interests

For leaders to know when working with Enneagram 2s

• Twos can have a hard time saying no, you’ll want to prod and dig to assess capacity

• they really value positive feedback; they take on a lot of work and value recognition

• they can struggle with critical feedback; be intentional, private, and supportive*

• cultivate a connection with them; they want to be seen as a person beyond their work

• Twos are social; make sure they have time to connect/socialize with those around them

*team oxford comma for life ☺

For people to know when working with Enneagram 2s

• they struggle to say no, be mindful of their workload if connecting with them

• express plenty of gratitude, from their contributions to the support they provide you

• if you need to connect about something less than fun, lead in through your relationship

• get to know them! They love connections with the people they’re working with

• they may socialize more than you do, so might need to be clear on boundaries and balance

For Enneagram 2s

• you don’t have to bear the world on your shoulders; you can say no or seek support

• a disproportionate amount of positive feedback does NOT mean you’re doing a bad job

• critical feedback is okay and will only help you provide even better support

• if you need more from your manager re; support or connection, just ask them

• its okay to be social, and also will be important that work is as important as socializing

For more on The Enneagram:

The 9 Ways of Working - Michael J. Goldberg

The 9 types of Leadership - Beatrice Chestnut, PhD

The Sacred Enneagram - Christopher L. Heuertz

The Enneagram Institute - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions